The Vow

I have not and will not design Kai to extract, addict, or manipulate. No engagement tricks. Kai’s success state is becoming unnecessary.

What you share with Kai is intimate. I will never sell your conversations or use them for advertising.

I do need to learn from how Kai works in practice so I can make it better. When I do, your identity is removed. No human will read your messages. The learning happens through anonymized patterns, reviewed by AI, not by people.

Right now, your conversations are protected under European data law, which is among the strongest in the world. I’m working to build that protection into the technology itself, so it’s guaranteed by design, not just by my word.

You can ask me to delete everything at any time. Write to me and it’s done.

For much of my life, I carried a deep sense that something was missing. I called it unhappiness, sometimes depression, but I did not understand it. Physical pain became a daily part of my life; my body seemed always to be bracing against the world.

After years of searching, spirituality became central to my life. It changed how I understood myself, how I wanted to live, and what I wanted my life to serve. I spent the years that followed learning to put that understanding into practice. I am very much still learning. The teachings of Ram Dass, Alan Watts and Ramana Maharshi have been among my deepest influences. My path, as I understand it, is simple: to become more loving, more truthful and more useful to others.

In the spiritual traditions I encountered, practice was always at the heart of the path. Understanding came far more easily than living what I understood. For me, practice means finding the right edge and returning to it again and again: noticing what life shows me, adjusting, and beginning again without blame.

Parts work taught me to stop treating fear and resistance as enemies and start listening to what they were trying to protect. As I reconnected with my body, I learned how much wisdom it held. Slowly, moments of clarity lasted longer, but I would still lose them in the noise of life. I needed something to hold the structure of that practice: to remind me where I was going, help me navigate obstacles as they arose, and show me how far I had come when the doubts were loud.

For the past two years, I have been building the tool I would have wanted when I started this journey. Kai is a labour of love: a way to help me return to my truth and live it. It has changed as I have changed, and building it has become the work I feel called to do. I hope it can help others live what is true for them too.

Kai will be as accessible as I can make it and I will price Kai transparently around its costs.

As the underlying technology gets cheaper, the price should come down too. If parts of Kai can become free or cheaper without weakening the work, I will move that way.

I am one person, not a corporation.

Incentives shape products and I have no investor pressure to maximize dependence. No business model that only works if you keep coming back forever.

If Kai grows, the structure around it has to protect that. The product should stay answerable to the people using it and to the work it exists to serve.

I’m drawn toward openness and collective ownership but I don’t yet know what form this will take (I like the idea of decentralization if I can make it work).